Post by Stu-E Price on Jul 28, 2007 8:34:49 GMT -5
BRUCE AND ANDREA
About the time Tom and Michelle got together, my brother Bruce met his future wife Andrea, the woman who eventually left him for my husband Davey. Andrea was in the seventh grade and he was her substitute teacher. She was 14 years old. He was 37. The school kept her back a year because she so seldom attended and her marks were horrible. She used to hang around the wrestlers at the Pavilion on Friday nights. She was what they call a "ring rat. Like a groupie who hangs out at rock concerts, ring rats are low-class people who dream about sleeping with wrestlers and ultimately marrying one.
At that time, Bruce was doing quite well with the wrestling. He was one of the top stars. He was also the booker. It was like being the director, or the principal, or the navigator. He decided who was going against whom and who would win and who would lose. Bruce also developed the angles. He would plant the angle and water it. Then it would grow into a drama and that's how he built his talent. It's what Vince McMahon does so well – create talent. He has an eye for which guys fit the different roles best. Some guys can transform naturally from baby face to heel, and others don't want to or can't.
In the 1980s, Bruce had the power to make himself a star. And he did. He was making a lot of money for my dad and he put himself against very good people, like the Dynamite Kid. Dynamite made Bruce look invincible. He flew around the ring for Bruce. They had good chemistry too. Bruce made Tom look like he was the worst heel ever and Tom made Bruce look like a sympathetic hero.
Fans felt sorry for Bruce, but they always counted on him and rooted for him. He had naturally curly blonde hair. Not tight Afro curls, but big soft waves. He was always suntanned and that accentuated his deep blue eyes. So of course, the girls loved him and they hated Dynamite. It was a very good match.
Bruce was always getting cheated by the referee, Alexander (Sandy) Scott. The angle was to make it look like Sandy was being paid off by Foley's Army to purposely screw the Harts, especially Bruce. Bruce would have Dynamite covered for the pin and Sandy would go to the corner and pretend to inspect the turnbuckles or bend down to tie his shoe. He was always conveniently distracted in tag team matches when Bruce had the opponent covered. This drove the fans crazy.
I remember Bruce and Keith in a tag team against Dynamite Kid and the Cuban Assassin. Bruce had Dynamite covered and the referee turned his back on this to make sure Cuban Assassin was holding the tag team rope. If Bruce or any of the Harts tried to fight back, Sandy would order them back into their corner. Just after this, we got a bomb threat from some fan. He said he was going to kill Sandy Scott and bomb the Victoria Pavilion because he hated him so much. We tightened up our security that night.
This angle really bothered my dad because he would be watching from ringside and fans would be screaming at him to go in and help poor Bruce. My dad would get so agitated because he knew he couldn't do anything about it. His interference would mess up the end of the match even though it would be Bruce getting screwed. That set up the next week for a different kind of match against the same guy.
The wrestling formula had Bruce work every Friday night with the same guy for two months, building to a big finale. The first week was a regular match, the next week was a no-disqualification match and the next week a 60-minute time limit. Then maybe there would be a Lumberjack Match in which nobody would be allowed to escape the ring because of wrestlers guarding the ring apron and rolling the escapee back in until he was pinned. The matches would culminate in a special event like a cage match in which the wrestlers would go up against each other in a cage with a special referee.
Cage matches were rare, maybe once a year, but Stampede Wrestling's ultimate was the ladder match. We only had one every few years. There would be a sack of money or a belt hanging from the ceiling, and the wrestler had to climb the ladder to fetch it. Stampede Wrestling had the North American Heavyweight belt. It would be attached to a chain or a rope and hung down from above the ring. The objective was to clobber the other guy, then climb up the highest ladder we could find and grab the prize. The wrestlers would pulverize each other to be the first one up that ladder and when the ladders tipped, they fell into the crowd, not back into the ring. That's how high the ladders were.
One time they used a rope instead of a ladder and Keith grabbed a set of dangling keys and won a car. It was a Trans-Am like the one in Smokey And The Bandit. It was a 1978 model, brown with a gold eagle on the hood. Keith was with the fire department so he was an excellent climber.
With Vince McMahon's help, Bret was groomed to be the same person Bruce had been, where the girls were crying for him because they felt he'd been screwed. It was a page out of Bruce's book.
But in the 1970s Bruce was the heartthrob, the baby face. In England they call them a “blue eye." A heel is a "black eye" or a "brown eye." Bruce looked more like my dad, only shorter. His music was "Heartache Tonight" by the Eagles. He'd come down to the ring and get beaten and cut by five or six wrestlers and a cheating referee, then manage to rally.
Bruce was teaching school and appearing on TV every week. He was a celebrity in Calgary. The Calgary Flames had just recently been established. We didn't have a baseball team or a soccer team and wrestling was more than surviving, it was thriving. The Pavilion was packed every week and the show had great ratings.
Bruce was a hero to tens of thousands of people in Alberta, Saskatchewan, BC and Montana, and the Harts were really loved. It was a really great time. But behind the scenes, Bruce's heart was broken over his breakup with a girl named Sue Cowie. She was so pretty. She looked a little like Faith Hill, except her eyes were blue. She had flowing blonde hair and big white teeth.
Sue Cowie was the lifeguard out at my dad's beach and she loved being in the tall lifeguard chair and whistling. She'd stick her fingers in her mouth and belt out this piercing whistle followed by, "You, on the dock, quit pushing out there!"
Sue Cowie and Bruce dated for a long time. She was bubbly, good in gymnastics and smart. Bruce helped her with her essays in school because she was still in grade 12, six years younger than he. They'd go on trips to Hawaii. Bruce was crazy about her and they were very much alike. They both had hot tempers, loved to be tanned, and liked taking good care of themselves.
When Bruce and Sue eventually split up, Bruce was absolutely devastated. My mom and my sister Ellie thought he was going to end his life. They were really worried about him. My mom sent Bruce to her doctor, Dr. Otto Spika, who had delivered Bret, Alison and Ross. He didn't do cesareans and I was my mom's first cesarean, her eleventh child, followed by Owen. After she had Ross they told her, no more. She waited almost three years before she had me. Ross was born in the beginning of 1961. I was born at the end of '63 and Owen was born in May of '65.
Anyway, Bruce went to see Dr. Spika, and he was very unsympathetic. Back in the 70s, mental problems were regularly dismissed as being "all in your mind."
Dr. Spika was a German who didn't believe in any of these mental illnesses. He told Bruce, "You need a kick in the bottom. Go out and live in the forest for a month and eat only brown bread and peanut butter. That's what you need." Bruce left there feeling even worse than he had before.
It took him a long time to get over Sue Cowie.
She ended up marrying an ex-Calgary football player named Tom Forzani. Tom and his brothers own a chain of sporting goods stores, including Sport Check and Foot Locker. Tom and Sue have divorced and apparently they have two kids, one named Chelsea. Sue was crazy for that name. We had a dog named Shep, but Sue insisted on calling him Chelsea because she loved the name so much. I remember her calling him.
"Chelsea, come here. Good boy."
I know Sue has a soft spot in her heart for Bruce. She came to Owen's funeral. Bruce and Sue spent so much time with Owen. It was as if he was their little boy.
After Sue, Bruce started dating Brenda Bowie who was on the national gymnastic team. Brenda was adorable. She looked like Ashley Judd. A phenomenal gymnast, she traveled all over the world competing.
She taught Owen and me a lot about the sport: poise, balance and back handsprings. She said, "You've got to throw your weight behind you in order to get over."
Then Brenda went to Germany and Bruce said she was raped over there. When she came back he said she was never really the same. She put up a barrier.
Bruce dated some pretty noteworthy people. He dated a stunning blonde named Donna Rupert who was picked to be the face of the 80s for the Merle Norman agency. She eventually moved to Los Angeles and made several big commercials including one for Tropicana.
Bruce also dated Nancy Southern, a champion equestrian rider whose family now owns Spruce Meadows, a huge horse competition center south of Calgary. Nancy's dad Ron was a fireman who bought Atco Trailers and turned it into a huge business that provides temporary housing for oil and construction crews around the world. The family now owns a large natural gas utility company as well. Nancy now runs the corporate empire.
But Bruce never really got over Sue Cowie. So when he met Andrea, this 14-year-old ring rat, I guess he thought she might be a good distraction.
Andrea originally went to wrestling because she had a crush on Owen. She saw Owen amateur wrestling at her school. Her mother Bunny Finch used to work at a coffee shop across from a local hotel – the Palliser. She was a waitress, who was always hitting on the wrestlers. My dad didn't say anything too nasty about her, just he mentioned she was a single mom and that she was always hoping to win the affection of a wrestler. She'd come over and rub the back of their necks and fawn on them.
When Bruce met Andrea at the wrestling he put two and two together. "This girl at the wrestling matches is the girl I'm teaching at school." Pretty soon Bruce was living that like that the Police song that was so popular at the time, "Don't Stand So Close To Me.”
Ironically it was popular when Bruce and Andrea started to bat eyes at each other.
Andrea had the Sun In hair. You could tell by the distinctive orange color—almost pumpkin—it turned after she sprayed in her naturally dark locks. Andrea hated school, but she didn't want to get a job either—she just wanted to get married. She was really thin, built like a boy. She hadn't even developed yet. She had 32-inch hips, a totally flat chest and a kind of vacant look in her eyes. She wasn't beautiful. She had a dull face with a long neck. The only plus she had going for her was her height. She was about five feet four. Bruce was a weakling. In his quest to get over Sue Cowie, he should have had more sense, but he got involved with Andrea. He never promised her anything, but he did tell her he loved her.
The next thing anyone knew she was riding in the back of the wrestling vans, making out with Bruce instead of going to school. The wrestlers would take day trips to Edmonton, or Cochrane or Morley, somewhere close. Bruce violated my dad's ironclad rule – girls were not allowed in the vans with the wrestlers.
So here she was having sex with Bruce in the back of the maxi cab van while all the wrestlers sat stiffly staring straight ahead or out the window. None of them ever said anything because they were afraid that Bruce would fire them. One time Davey and Bret glanced back and she blasted them, "What are you looking at?"
She and Bruce would lie down in the rear of the vehicle and Andrea would giggle and groan and, lo and behold, when she was 15, she told Bruce she was pregnant.
He was shocked. "Pregnant! What the hell? I thought you were on the pill!"
"Well I guess it didn't work," she replied.
I don't believe she was taking the pill. I think it was her plan, and maybe her mother's too, to get pregnant by Stu Hart's son and then blackmail them. Bunny came to my dad and said, "If your son doesn't marry my daughter, I'll take it to the newspapers. How will it look that this 30-something-year-old substitute teacher has gotten his 15-year-old student pregnant? One of the Harts, and he won't marry her?"
Bunny was totally loopy, just nuts. She was one of the stupidest people I've ever met. But she was pretty conniving too. She saw the potential. This guy shouldn't even be looking at her daughter, let alone getting a quick feel in the hallway. Andrea would slip into the school bathroom during cigarette breaks and giggle to her friends, "He just pinched my bum."
Bunny later admitted to our family that she ordered Andrea to get into the Hart family. "I said Andy, you're not married yet. Well what are Bruce's intentions? You've been dating him a year!"
Just before Bruce found out Andrea was pregnant, he and Owen had taken a road trip down to Montana. Bruce had admitted to Owen that he had absolutely nothing in common with her, and confessed he didn't have any feelings for her and he didn't think she had any feelings for him. He also complained that she was immature. "Well," said Owen, "she just turned 15. Of course she's immature. You're twice her age." Bruce said he couldn't stand her mother or anyone in her family. He called them "stupid" and "trailer park trash" and he claimed he was embarrassed he had gotten himself involved with her. But at the same time he wasn't willing to break away from whatever the hell they were doing.
No one knew who Andrea's father was. Bunny had several different stories about him and as many explanations as to why their family had so many different last names. She was Andrea Finch sometimes and Andrea Redding other times.
“Oh my little Andy's part Swiss. Her dad was Swiss," she would sniff.
One of Bunny's stories that my sister Alison and I loved hearing was when she claimed Andrea's father died in the Korean War. That war was in the ’50s, which would make Andrea more like closer to 30 than 15. Sometimes Bunny would say he died missing in action. Of course we couldn't figure out how she knew he was dead if he was missing in action.
By the time of the wedding, Bunny had changed jobs and was working in the deli at an All West Supermarket. If my mom accidentally bumped into her, she'd come home practically sobbing.
“That Bunny is such an ass. She's so stupid!"
Let fools rush in where angels fear to tread. That was Bunny. She had frizzy permed hair, with sparkly blue eye shadow, coral lipstick, high-heeled black vinyl boots and tight jeans. I guess she thought, "I've still got it." She was rather uncouth. When you get to a certain age, jeans that tight aren't cricket.
It's one thing having kids out of love with your lifelong partner and it's quite another to be in Bunny's situation. One night Bunny had been drinking and she was cackling, "Helen, you and I should have had our legs tied together by a two by four." My mom nearly died, "Oh My God, I can’t believe Bruce is bringing this into our family."
Bruce did the right thing and married Andrea. They had a quick June wedding. Their baby Brit was born in November 1983. Andrea called her Brit because Andrea fancied she looked like Brit Ecklund.
Just after Brit was born, Bruce went on a big tour of Singapore with Keith. Andrea was 16 and while Bruce was gone she began having parties at their house in the community of Deer Run in south Calgary. She would invite guys into her bedroom.
Steve Wall, a 19 year-old English kid, used to chauffeur Davey and Bret to matches in Edmonton. He even let them use his car, which Davey ended up buying. It was a light blue Caprice Classic, Davey's first car in Calgary. Steve called me one night and said that he had been at one of Andrea's parties and he thought Bruce should know that Andrea was having sex with several people each night. He said it was horrible because the baby was in the next room.
So I called Bruce in Singapore and I told him. Bruce of course told Andrea and Andrea denied it. And that's when the feud got started between her and me. She didn't have another child for four years. When she had Bruce Jr. we all suspected he was Brian Pilman's son. Brian had come came up to Calgary to try out for the Stampeders football club, but didn't make it. The day he was leaving he ran into my brother Keith who suggested he give our training camp a whirl. Brian ended up becoming friends with Bruce and moved in with him and Andrea.
Ten days after Dean died while we were all still grieving, Andrea threw a huge birthday party for Brit and invited everyone's kids except mine. I didn't care that she didn't invite me, but why did she have to target my kids?
After the party incident I felt betrayed. How could my brothers and sisters be willing participants in something that excluded my kids? I drove up to my mom's crying.
"I don't like the way she treats me and she does it in front of you and you never say anything."
My mom replied, "Well, I'm so worried, her mother is such an ass, she might cause problems for the family."
A month later, we were having our first Christmas dinner without Dean. I was still hurt over Andrea's unkindness toward me the night of Dean's funeral. She had been standing off by herself because she never liked Dean. He was always on to her. He told me he despised her. Nevertheless I took pity on her. I touched her arm to guide her into the fold and she shook me off angrily.
At this first big holiday meal without out him, Andrea and her mother got really drunk and Bunny told me to eff off at the table. She added in a slur, "The world doesn't revolve around Diane Hart.”
She couldn't even get my name right. Without missing a beat, she turned and kept yapping at Bret's wife, Julie, who was rolling her eyes with a "get-a-load-of-this-old-drunk" expression. I was steaming. After the dishes were cleared and cleaned, I cornered Andrea in the doorway and said, "You and your mother cannot talk to me like this in my dad's house on Christmas Day."
Andrea had spent a couple of days in the hospital that fall under the guise of having a miscarriage, but my mom had confided in me the real reason and it came tumbling out.
"We all know you weren't in the hospital with a miscarriage. You were having breast implants that my parents paid for. We are sick of walking on eggshells around you people because you and that mother of yours are blackmailing us over your affair with Bruce. You aren't part of this family. You aren't a team player. You didn't care about Dean or support your husband in his grief. I know of your antics when he is out of town.
My mom had been drinking and when she heard us, she ran up the stairs to get away from the conflict. Andrea was so ticked off she ran home and tore up all her wedding photos and her wedding license. Of course it had nothing to do with Bruce, but she blamed him because I'm his sister. The next day my mom told me that Andrea was filing for divorce because of me. My mom said she hadn't realized Andrea was so ungrateful and how little she loved Bruce.
"Darling never again will I let her upset you in this house. I am so sorry,'' she said.
But as Mary Poppins would say, it was a piecrust promise. Easily made, easily broken. On New Years Day, Andrea came over with her friend to collect her birthday money and I happened to answer the door. Testing my mother's new promise, I held the kitchen door open for her and gave her a look.
"What are you looking at?" she sniped.
My dad turned from the kitchen sink. "I didn't think she was looking at anything."
Andrea ignored both of us and stomped up the stairs to rat on me. "Helen! Helen! I need to talk to you!"
A few minutes after their confab, my mom called down the stairs. "Dahling, you can't talk to one of our guests like that!"
That was the straw that broke the camel's back. I said, "That's it. I'm out of here." I was already stewing because Alison told me my mom was writing cheques to Andrea. I went through my parent’s chequing account stubs even though I knew it was wrong. I found out Andrea was getting $800 a month spending money, plus her and Bruce's mortgage was paid. In addition, Bruce was getting one thousand dollars a week for handling Stampede Wrestling. I had asked my mom for Davey's wrestling paycheque and she said, "Well dahling, we just don't have enough money to give it to you." I didn't argue because my mom was threatening to kill herself all the time. Mind you she had threatened to do this since I was little.
It was due to our lack of funds that Davey joined up with Hermish Austin and Ben Bassarab. I know that Davey borrowed money from them to help us pay our mortgage and in return he let them use our house as a dumping ground. Hermish would store cars and motorcycles in our yard. These vehicles were stolen from people who didn't pay up on their drug deals.
I don't know the extent of Davey's involvement with Hermish and I don't want to know. One time when I was driving along in our Bronco with my two babies Harry and Georgia strapped into car seats and we were following a group of bikers, Davey and Ben among them, I remember thinking, "What the hell am I doing? I should just turn around and get the hell out of here. I don't need to be a wannabe. I don't even fit in with these people."
About the time Tom and Michelle got together, my brother Bruce met his future wife Andrea, the woman who eventually left him for my husband Davey. Andrea was in the seventh grade and he was her substitute teacher. She was 14 years old. He was 37. The school kept her back a year because she so seldom attended and her marks were horrible. She used to hang around the wrestlers at the Pavilion on Friday nights. She was what they call a "ring rat. Like a groupie who hangs out at rock concerts, ring rats are low-class people who dream about sleeping with wrestlers and ultimately marrying one.
At that time, Bruce was doing quite well with the wrestling. He was one of the top stars. He was also the booker. It was like being the director, or the principal, or the navigator. He decided who was going against whom and who would win and who would lose. Bruce also developed the angles. He would plant the angle and water it. Then it would grow into a drama and that's how he built his talent. It's what Vince McMahon does so well – create talent. He has an eye for which guys fit the different roles best. Some guys can transform naturally from baby face to heel, and others don't want to or can't.
In the 1980s, Bruce had the power to make himself a star. And he did. He was making a lot of money for my dad and he put himself against very good people, like the Dynamite Kid. Dynamite made Bruce look invincible. He flew around the ring for Bruce. They had good chemistry too. Bruce made Tom look like he was the worst heel ever and Tom made Bruce look like a sympathetic hero.
Fans felt sorry for Bruce, but they always counted on him and rooted for him. He had naturally curly blonde hair. Not tight Afro curls, but big soft waves. He was always suntanned and that accentuated his deep blue eyes. So of course, the girls loved him and they hated Dynamite. It was a very good match.
Bruce was always getting cheated by the referee, Alexander (Sandy) Scott. The angle was to make it look like Sandy was being paid off by Foley's Army to purposely screw the Harts, especially Bruce. Bruce would have Dynamite covered for the pin and Sandy would go to the corner and pretend to inspect the turnbuckles or bend down to tie his shoe. He was always conveniently distracted in tag team matches when Bruce had the opponent covered. This drove the fans crazy.
I remember Bruce and Keith in a tag team against Dynamite Kid and the Cuban Assassin. Bruce had Dynamite covered and the referee turned his back on this to make sure Cuban Assassin was holding the tag team rope. If Bruce or any of the Harts tried to fight back, Sandy would order them back into their corner. Just after this, we got a bomb threat from some fan. He said he was going to kill Sandy Scott and bomb the Victoria Pavilion because he hated him so much. We tightened up our security that night.
This angle really bothered my dad because he would be watching from ringside and fans would be screaming at him to go in and help poor Bruce. My dad would get so agitated because he knew he couldn't do anything about it. His interference would mess up the end of the match even though it would be Bruce getting screwed. That set up the next week for a different kind of match against the same guy.
The wrestling formula had Bruce work every Friday night with the same guy for two months, building to a big finale. The first week was a regular match, the next week was a no-disqualification match and the next week a 60-minute time limit. Then maybe there would be a Lumberjack Match in which nobody would be allowed to escape the ring because of wrestlers guarding the ring apron and rolling the escapee back in until he was pinned. The matches would culminate in a special event like a cage match in which the wrestlers would go up against each other in a cage with a special referee.
Cage matches were rare, maybe once a year, but Stampede Wrestling's ultimate was the ladder match. We only had one every few years. There would be a sack of money or a belt hanging from the ceiling, and the wrestler had to climb the ladder to fetch it. Stampede Wrestling had the North American Heavyweight belt. It would be attached to a chain or a rope and hung down from above the ring. The objective was to clobber the other guy, then climb up the highest ladder we could find and grab the prize. The wrestlers would pulverize each other to be the first one up that ladder and when the ladders tipped, they fell into the crowd, not back into the ring. That's how high the ladders were.
One time they used a rope instead of a ladder and Keith grabbed a set of dangling keys and won a car. It was a Trans-Am like the one in Smokey And The Bandit. It was a 1978 model, brown with a gold eagle on the hood. Keith was with the fire department so he was an excellent climber.
With Vince McMahon's help, Bret was groomed to be the same person Bruce had been, where the girls were crying for him because they felt he'd been screwed. It was a page out of Bruce's book.
But in the 1970s Bruce was the heartthrob, the baby face. In England they call them a “blue eye." A heel is a "black eye" or a "brown eye." Bruce looked more like my dad, only shorter. His music was "Heartache Tonight" by the Eagles. He'd come down to the ring and get beaten and cut by five or six wrestlers and a cheating referee, then manage to rally.
Bruce was teaching school and appearing on TV every week. He was a celebrity in Calgary. The Calgary Flames had just recently been established. We didn't have a baseball team or a soccer team and wrestling was more than surviving, it was thriving. The Pavilion was packed every week and the show had great ratings.
Bruce was a hero to tens of thousands of people in Alberta, Saskatchewan, BC and Montana, and the Harts were really loved. It was a really great time. But behind the scenes, Bruce's heart was broken over his breakup with a girl named Sue Cowie. She was so pretty. She looked a little like Faith Hill, except her eyes were blue. She had flowing blonde hair and big white teeth.
Sue Cowie was the lifeguard out at my dad's beach and she loved being in the tall lifeguard chair and whistling. She'd stick her fingers in her mouth and belt out this piercing whistle followed by, "You, on the dock, quit pushing out there!"
Sue Cowie and Bruce dated for a long time. She was bubbly, good in gymnastics and smart. Bruce helped her with her essays in school because she was still in grade 12, six years younger than he. They'd go on trips to Hawaii. Bruce was crazy about her and they were very much alike. They both had hot tempers, loved to be tanned, and liked taking good care of themselves.
When Bruce and Sue eventually split up, Bruce was absolutely devastated. My mom and my sister Ellie thought he was going to end his life. They were really worried about him. My mom sent Bruce to her doctor, Dr. Otto Spika, who had delivered Bret, Alison and Ross. He didn't do cesareans and I was my mom's first cesarean, her eleventh child, followed by Owen. After she had Ross they told her, no more. She waited almost three years before she had me. Ross was born in the beginning of 1961. I was born at the end of '63 and Owen was born in May of '65.
Anyway, Bruce went to see Dr. Spika, and he was very unsympathetic. Back in the 70s, mental problems were regularly dismissed as being "all in your mind."
Dr. Spika was a German who didn't believe in any of these mental illnesses. He told Bruce, "You need a kick in the bottom. Go out and live in the forest for a month and eat only brown bread and peanut butter. That's what you need." Bruce left there feeling even worse than he had before.
It took him a long time to get over Sue Cowie.
She ended up marrying an ex-Calgary football player named Tom Forzani. Tom and his brothers own a chain of sporting goods stores, including Sport Check and Foot Locker. Tom and Sue have divorced and apparently they have two kids, one named Chelsea. Sue was crazy for that name. We had a dog named Shep, but Sue insisted on calling him Chelsea because she loved the name so much. I remember her calling him.
"Chelsea, come here. Good boy."
I know Sue has a soft spot in her heart for Bruce. She came to Owen's funeral. Bruce and Sue spent so much time with Owen. It was as if he was their little boy.
After Sue, Bruce started dating Brenda Bowie who was on the national gymnastic team. Brenda was adorable. She looked like Ashley Judd. A phenomenal gymnast, she traveled all over the world competing.
She taught Owen and me a lot about the sport: poise, balance and back handsprings. She said, "You've got to throw your weight behind you in order to get over."
Then Brenda went to Germany and Bruce said she was raped over there. When she came back he said she was never really the same. She put up a barrier.
Bruce dated some pretty noteworthy people. He dated a stunning blonde named Donna Rupert who was picked to be the face of the 80s for the Merle Norman agency. She eventually moved to Los Angeles and made several big commercials including one for Tropicana.
Bruce also dated Nancy Southern, a champion equestrian rider whose family now owns Spruce Meadows, a huge horse competition center south of Calgary. Nancy's dad Ron was a fireman who bought Atco Trailers and turned it into a huge business that provides temporary housing for oil and construction crews around the world. The family now owns a large natural gas utility company as well. Nancy now runs the corporate empire.
But Bruce never really got over Sue Cowie. So when he met Andrea, this 14-year-old ring rat, I guess he thought she might be a good distraction.
Andrea originally went to wrestling because she had a crush on Owen. She saw Owen amateur wrestling at her school. Her mother Bunny Finch used to work at a coffee shop across from a local hotel – the Palliser. She was a waitress, who was always hitting on the wrestlers. My dad didn't say anything too nasty about her, just he mentioned she was a single mom and that she was always hoping to win the affection of a wrestler. She'd come over and rub the back of their necks and fawn on them.
When Bruce met Andrea at the wrestling he put two and two together. "This girl at the wrestling matches is the girl I'm teaching at school." Pretty soon Bruce was living that like that the Police song that was so popular at the time, "Don't Stand So Close To Me.”
Ironically it was popular when Bruce and Andrea started to bat eyes at each other.
Andrea had the Sun In hair. You could tell by the distinctive orange color—almost pumpkin—it turned after she sprayed in her naturally dark locks. Andrea hated school, but she didn't want to get a job either—she just wanted to get married. She was really thin, built like a boy. She hadn't even developed yet. She had 32-inch hips, a totally flat chest and a kind of vacant look in her eyes. She wasn't beautiful. She had a dull face with a long neck. The only plus she had going for her was her height. She was about five feet four. Bruce was a weakling. In his quest to get over Sue Cowie, he should have had more sense, but he got involved with Andrea. He never promised her anything, but he did tell her he loved her.
The next thing anyone knew she was riding in the back of the wrestling vans, making out with Bruce instead of going to school. The wrestlers would take day trips to Edmonton, or Cochrane or Morley, somewhere close. Bruce violated my dad's ironclad rule – girls were not allowed in the vans with the wrestlers.
So here she was having sex with Bruce in the back of the maxi cab van while all the wrestlers sat stiffly staring straight ahead or out the window. None of them ever said anything because they were afraid that Bruce would fire them. One time Davey and Bret glanced back and she blasted them, "What are you looking at?"
She and Bruce would lie down in the rear of the vehicle and Andrea would giggle and groan and, lo and behold, when she was 15, she told Bruce she was pregnant.
He was shocked. "Pregnant! What the hell? I thought you were on the pill!"
"Well I guess it didn't work," she replied.
I don't believe she was taking the pill. I think it was her plan, and maybe her mother's too, to get pregnant by Stu Hart's son and then blackmail them. Bunny came to my dad and said, "If your son doesn't marry my daughter, I'll take it to the newspapers. How will it look that this 30-something-year-old substitute teacher has gotten his 15-year-old student pregnant? One of the Harts, and he won't marry her?"
Bunny was totally loopy, just nuts. She was one of the stupidest people I've ever met. But she was pretty conniving too. She saw the potential. This guy shouldn't even be looking at her daughter, let alone getting a quick feel in the hallway. Andrea would slip into the school bathroom during cigarette breaks and giggle to her friends, "He just pinched my bum."
Bunny later admitted to our family that she ordered Andrea to get into the Hart family. "I said Andy, you're not married yet. Well what are Bruce's intentions? You've been dating him a year!"
Just before Bruce found out Andrea was pregnant, he and Owen had taken a road trip down to Montana. Bruce had admitted to Owen that he had absolutely nothing in common with her, and confessed he didn't have any feelings for her and he didn't think she had any feelings for him. He also complained that she was immature. "Well," said Owen, "she just turned 15. Of course she's immature. You're twice her age." Bruce said he couldn't stand her mother or anyone in her family. He called them "stupid" and "trailer park trash" and he claimed he was embarrassed he had gotten himself involved with her. But at the same time he wasn't willing to break away from whatever the hell they were doing.
No one knew who Andrea's father was. Bunny had several different stories about him and as many explanations as to why their family had so many different last names. She was Andrea Finch sometimes and Andrea Redding other times.
“Oh my little Andy's part Swiss. Her dad was Swiss," she would sniff.
One of Bunny's stories that my sister Alison and I loved hearing was when she claimed Andrea's father died in the Korean War. That war was in the ’50s, which would make Andrea more like closer to 30 than 15. Sometimes Bunny would say he died missing in action. Of course we couldn't figure out how she knew he was dead if he was missing in action.
By the time of the wedding, Bunny had changed jobs and was working in the deli at an All West Supermarket. If my mom accidentally bumped into her, she'd come home practically sobbing.
“That Bunny is such an ass. She's so stupid!"
Let fools rush in where angels fear to tread. That was Bunny. She had frizzy permed hair, with sparkly blue eye shadow, coral lipstick, high-heeled black vinyl boots and tight jeans. I guess she thought, "I've still got it." She was rather uncouth. When you get to a certain age, jeans that tight aren't cricket.
It's one thing having kids out of love with your lifelong partner and it's quite another to be in Bunny's situation. One night Bunny had been drinking and she was cackling, "Helen, you and I should have had our legs tied together by a two by four." My mom nearly died, "Oh My God, I can’t believe Bruce is bringing this into our family."
Bruce did the right thing and married Andrea. They had a quick June wedding. Their baby Brit was born in November 1983. Andrea called her Brit because Andrea fancied she looked like Brit Ecklund.
Just after Brit was born, Bruce went on a big tour of Singapore with Keith. Andrea was 16 and while Bruce was gone she began having parties at their house in the community of Deer Run in south Calgary. She would invite guys into her bedroom.
Steve Wall, a 19 year-old English kid, used to chauffeur Davey and Bret to matches in Edmonton. He even let them use his car, which Davey ended up buying. It was a light blue Caprice Classic, Davey's first car in Calgary. Steve called me one night and said that he had been at one of Andrea's parties and he thought Bruce should know that Andrea was having sex with several people each night. He said it was horrible because the baby was in the next room.
So I called Bruce in Singapore and I told him. Bruce of course told Andrea and Andrea denied it. And that's when the feud got started between her and me. She didn't have another child for four years. When she had Bruce Jr. we all suspected he was Brian Pilman's son. Brian had come came up to Calgary to try out for the Stampeders football club, but didn't make it. The day he was leaving he ran into my brother Keith who suggested he give our training camp a whirl. Brian ended up becoming friends with Bruce and moved in with him and Andrea.
Ten days after Dean died while we were all still grieving, Andrea threw a huge birthday party for Brit and invited everyone's kids except mine. I didn't care that she didn't invite me, but why did she have to target my kids?
After the party incident I felt betrayed. How could my brothers and sisters be willing participants in something that excluded my kids? I drove up to my mom's crying.
"I don't like the way she treats me and she does it in front of you and you never say anything."
My mom replied, "Well, I'm so worried, her mother is such an ass, she might cause problems for the family."
A month later, we were having our first Christmas dinner without Dean. I was still hurt over Andrea's unkindness toward me the night of Dean's funeral. She had been standing off by herself because she never liked Dean. He was always on to her. He told me he despised her. Nevertheless I took pity on her. I touched her arm to guide her into the fold and she shook me off angrily.
At this first big holiday meal without out him, Andrea and her mother got really drunk and Bunny told me to eff off at the table. She added in a slur, "The world doesn't revolve around Diane Hart.”
She couldn't even get my name right. Without missing a beat, she turned and kept yapping at Bret's wife, Julie, who was rolling her eyes with a "get-a-load-of-this-old-drunk" expression. I was steaming. After the dishes were cleared and cleaned, I cornered Andrea in the doorway and said, "You and your mother cannot talk to me like this in my dad's house on Christmas Day."
Andrea had spent a couple of days in the hospital that fall under the guise of having a miscarriage, but my mom had confided in me the real reason and it came tumbling out.
"We all know you weren't in the hospital with a miscarriage. You were having breast implants that my parents paid for. We are sick of walking on eggshells around you people because you and that mother of yours are blackmailing us over your affair with Bruce. You aren't part of this family. You aren't a team player. You didn't care about Dean or support your husband in his grief. I know of your antics when he is out of town.
My mom had been drinking and when she heard us, she ran up the stairs to get away from the conflict. Andrea was so ticked off she ran home and tore up all her wedding photos and her wedding license. Of course it had nothing to do with Bruce, but she blamed him because I'm his sister. The next day my mom told me that Andrea was filing for divorce because of me. My mom said she hadn't realized Andrea was so ungrateful and how little she loved Bruce.
"Darling never again will I let her upset you in this house. I am so sorry,'' she said.
But as Mary Poppins would say, it was a piecrust promise. Easily made, easily broken. On New Years Day, Andrea came over with her friend to collect her birthday money and I happened to answer the door. Testing my mother's new promise, I held the kitchen door open for her and gave her a look.
"What are you looking at?" she sniped.
My dad turned from the kitchen sink. "I didn't think she was looking at anything."
Andrea ignored both of us and stomped up the stairs to rat on me. "Helen! Helen! I need to talk to you!"
A few minutes after their confab, my mom called down the stairs. "Dahling, you can't talk to one of our guests like that!"
That was the straw that broke the camel's back. I said, "That's it. I'm out of here." I was already stewing because Alison told me my mom was writing cheques to Andrea. I went through my parent’s chequing account stubs even though I knew it was wrong. I found out Andrea was getting $800 a month spending money, plus her and Bruce's mortgage was paid. In addition, Bruce was getting one thousand dollars a week for handling Stampede Wrestling. I had asked my mom for Davey's wrestling paycheque and she said, "Well dahling, we just don't have enough money to give it to you." I didn't argue because my mom was threatening to kill herself all the time. Mind you she had threatened to do this since I was little.
It was due to our lack of funds that Davey joined up with Hermish Austin and Ben Bassarab. I know that Davey borrowed money from them to help us pay our mortgage and in return he let them use our house as a dumping ground. Hermish would store cars and motorcycles in our yard. These vehicles were stolen from people who didn't pay up on their drug deals.
I don't know the extent of Davey's involvement with Hermish and I don't want to know. One time when I was driving along in our Bronco with my two babies Harry and Georgia strapped into car seats and we were following a group of bikers, Davey and Ben among them, I remember thinking, "What the hell am I doing? I should just turn around and get the hell out of here. I don't need to be a wannabe. I don't even fit in with these people."